Resources for Parents and Caregivers

As we kick off the spring semester, it’s important to remember that first- and second-year students may still be finding their groove when it comes to feeling connected on campus. While this is completely normal, it can be hard to hear when your student says they haven’t quite found their place yet or aren’t really connecting with their roommate. Read more about ways students can take charge and work towards finding and creating their connections. At the very basic level, there is a Spring Activities Fair, Recreation services activities, leadership or volunteer opportunities, and a fund for Fun! 

There is a lot of pressure, both internal and external, around belonging. Even in our messaging, we talk about how your student absolutely belongs here – they earned their place at Luther College. So when they don’t feel that sense of connection, it can create shame or lead them to question whether Luther is truly the right place. That tension is real.

I want to offer a few thoughts on how you can encourage your student during this season.

We have a Spring Activities Fair on February 17 in the Union. For students who are ready to re-engage or who are just beginning to explore, it’s a great opportunity to meet organization leaders, learn about involvement and engagement options, and sign up to try something new. Sometimes a new semester is the perfect reset.

It may sound cliché, but comparison really is the thief of joy. Often, when students feel disconnected, it’s because they are assuming everyone else has multiple friend groups and has figured everything out. In reality, many students are still building community. Encourage your student to reflect on what they want from their college experience as an individual rather than measuring themselves against others.

For sophomores or juniors who are still feeling lost, sometimes it helps to flip the script. Instead of trying to join something, consider stepping into leadership. Encourage them to apply for on-campus employment, ask staff or faculty about leadership opportunities – serving as a Welcome Week Leader, Resident Assistant, or consider running for student government.  Often, belonging grows when students take ownership.

There are also plenty of informal ways to connect. Recreational Services offers intramural opportunities and equipment checkout, and students have access to funding to create their own fun on campus. If cost is ever a barrier, the Activities and Leadership Development Office can help. In addition, we have a student-initiative-grant to help Fund the Fun.

It can be difficult to hear that your student is still searching for their place. Be patient. It does get better, though it will not happen on its own. Empower your student to reach out. Our Student Life staff are ready to work alongside them and help them find meaningful experiences that align with who they are becoming…we have staff here at Luther to help your student find their place!